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Living By Design

What do you see when you look at the life you’re living today?  And which seems more real – your current conditions or your vision of life as it could be?  The answer depends on whether you consider yourself a victim of circumstance or master of your fate.

The truth is, you’re constantly choosing the life you see all around you. Everything in the physical world of form originates in the energetic world of thought. Your thoughts are nothing less than opportunities to consciously co-create with the Universe.  This means that every decision you make, large or small, causes a shift in energy that produces results in your daily life.

The power to decide is about exercising your personal freedom. This unique capacity enables you to write your own rules, ones that call forth your highest and best self. It is the secret to creating a life of your own design.

There is really only one thing over which you have no control – and that is whether or not you will create a life. You will either choose to live by design or by default. If you choose not to act in a particular situation, to shift things in a direction you would prefer, you will have decided by default. By failing to choose among alternatives, you will have sacrificed any control over the outcome, and may very well find yourself in circumstances you don’t like.

Choosing with conscious intent is always empowering.  The more you practice conscious decision-making, the more empowered you become in every area of life.

Here’s to Designing Your Best Life!


Write down at least one thing you decide to add to or eliminate from your life, something that will move you in the direction of your best life.  It could be a behavior, an attitude or a relationship. Then move out of victimhood and into life mastery by committing yourself to action.  Please share your wins here!

Turn Your Failures Into Stepping Stones

Failure is far more common than success. Scarcely anyone reaches a goal without running into obstacles along the way. Some of the greatest achievers in history endured multiple crushing defeats before emerging victorious. Sadly, far too many people never manage to find their way through challenging conditions and fulfill their true potential.

Fear of failure is one of the leading paradigms, or thinking patterns, that stand in the way of achieving your dreams. We reflexively tend to see failure a sign of personal inadequacy.  To avoid this painful situation, we’re willing to do almost anything, including giving up entirely on our most deeply cherished goals.  

We can’t change facts, but we can shift our perception of them and make them work to our advantage.  Circumstances are neutral – we assign value, good or bad, to them. Failure isn’t inherently a bad thing. It certainly has no bearing on your self-worth or your ability to succeed. If you fail, it doesn’t mean you will never reach your goal. It merely means that what you already tried, didn’t work. Failure can actually be a positive learning experience that helps highlight a better path to take.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” Don’t let the fear of failure paralyze you and keep you from living your best life. When you can see setbacks merely as opportunities to correct course, you transform every apparent failure into a stepping-stone to success.

To Your Success!


Can you remember a time when a failure turned out to be the key to a greater success?  Share your experience here.

A Heart Full Of Gratitude

Max Lucado tells this inspirational story in his book entitled In The Eye of the Storm.

It happened every Friday evening, almost without fail, when the sun resembled a giant orange and was starting to dip into the blue ocean.

Old Ed came strolling along the beach to his favorite pier. Clutched in his bony hand was a bucket of shrimp. Ed walks out to the end of the pier, where it seems he almost has the world to himself. The glow of the sun is a golden bronze now.  Everybody's gone, except for a few joggers on the beach. Standing out on the end of the pier, Ed is alone with his thoughts...and his bucket of shrimp.  

Before long, however, he is no longer alone. Up in the sky a thousand white dots come screeching and squawking, winging their way toward that lanky frame standing there on the end of the pier.  Before long, dozens of seagulls have enveloped him, their wings fluttering and flapping wildly. Ed stands there tossing shrimp to the hungry birds. As he does, if you listen closely, you can hear him say with a smile, 'Thank you. Thank you.'

In a few short minutes the bucket is empty. But Ed doesn't leave.  He stands there lost in thought, as though transported to another time and place. When he finally turns around and begins to walk back toward the beach, a few of the birds hop along the pier with him until he gets to the stairs, and then they, too, fly away. And old Ed quietly makes his way down to the end of the beach and on home.  

If you were sitting there on the pier with your fishing line in the water, Ed might seem like 'a funny old duck,' as my dad used to say. Or, to onlookers, he's just another old codger, lost in his own weird world, feeding the seagulls with a bucket full of shrimp.  To the onlooker, rituals can look either very strange or very empty. They can seem altogether unimportant ... maybe even a lot of nonsense.  Old folks often do strange things, 

at least in the eyes of Boomers and Busters.  Most of them would probably write Old Ed off, down there in  Florida. That's too bad. They'd do well to know him better.  

His full name: Eddie Rickenbacker. He was a famous hero in World War I, and then he was in WWII.  On one of his flying missions across the Pacific, he and his seven-member crew went down. Miraculously, all of the men survived, crawled out of their plane, and climbed into a life raft.  

Captain Rickenbacker and his crew floated for days on the rough waters of the Pacific. They fought the sun. They fought sharks. Most of all, they fought hunger and thirst. By the eighth day their rations ran out. No food. No water. They were hundreds of miles from land and no one knew where they were or even if they were alive.   Every day across America millions wondered and prayed that Eddie Rickenbacker might somehow be found alive. The men adrift needed a miracle. That afternoon they had a simple devotional service and prayed for a miracle. They tried to nap. Eddie leaned back and pulled his military cap over his nose. Time dragged on.  All he could hear was the slap of the waves against the raft... Suddenly, Eddie felt something land on the top of his cap.

It was a seagull!  

Old Ed would later describe how he sat perfectly still, planning his next move. With a flash of his hand and a squawk from the gull, he managed to grab it and wring its neck. He tore the feathers off, and he and his starving crew made a meal of it - a very slight meal for eight men. Then they used the intestines for bait. With it, they caught fish, which gave them food and more bait…and the cycle continued. With that simple survival technique, they were able to endure the rigors of the sea until they were found and rescued after 24 days at sea.  

Eddie Rickenbacker lived many years beyond that ordeal, but he never forgot the sacrifice of that first life-saving seagull. And he never stopped saying, 'Thank you.' That's why almost every Friday night he would walk to the end of the pier with a bucket full of shrimp and a heart full of gratitude.    

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