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Creating The Ideal Life-Long Vacation

“The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all details of daily life.” 

~ William Morris

What does relaxation look like to you? For many people, a planned and usually brief vacation is the only time they relax. A single one or two week vacation can be wonderful, and even very therapeutic.  However, you have to ask yourself whether it’s really necessary to limit yourself to a particular place or time. Why not simply look for relaxation moments in every day? 

Meditation breaks, power naps, reading and writing, and personally connecting with positive, uplifting friends are all opportunities to rest and recharge that are easily incorporated into your daily life. Engaging in a favorite hobby, especially a creative one like playing a musical instrument or painting, is also an excellent way to reduce stress.

Personally, I’m not willing to settle for having a good life “sometimes”. I’m not interested in having a rare occasional experience of peace and relaxation. I want it every day, or at least as often as possible - and that deserves just as much focus, dedication, and planning as an actual vacation.

If you feel the same, are you willing to do what it takes to live your ideal life all the time, every day, in every way? You can start today by doing something that you have always wanted to do but may have previously feared or resisted, something totally relaxing and for your pleasure alone.  When you take a break from the routine for even a little while, you raise your energy level, open your creative channels and elevate your mood.  Your body and mind will thank you for taking small, frequent and relaxing “stay-cations”.

To Your Best Life!


Kicking A Not So Harmless Habit

“Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny.”

~Mahatma Gandhi

A new addiction is sweeping America, and much of the world. No, it isn’t prescription opiate abuse.  It’s addiction to electronic devices, in particular the smartphone.

Nomophobia - the fear of having no mobile connection - is frighteningly common.  Nearly three-quarters of adult smartphone users check their phones within an hour of waking up. And well over half check their devices just before they go to bed.  Children are not immune to this disease either. In a recent European survey, 30% of the 10-year-olds had their own phones. By age 12, nearly 70% had a device... and by age 14, the figure was 83%.  Even 2- and 3-year-olds were commonly using the devices. 

Overusing our smartphones leads to a variety of proven medical conditions, including neck pain, muscle stiffness, tendon injuries and computer vision syndrome. Some studies even suggest a connection between cell phone use and cancer. But the social effects are much more worrisome.

Electronic devices have seriously injured our interpersonal connections. Conversation is a dying art. It's now normal to see two people ignoring each other at dinner as they check their phones, or a group of teens in a room heads down, fingers scrolling across the screen, and not a peep exchanged among them.  Friends often communicate by text or Facebook instead of calling each other for a chat. 

On a personal level, when you go reach for your phone to check your email or messages first thing in the morning, somebody else’s agenda suddenly becomes your agenda. You’re automatically putting other people in front of your own priorities, whether or not it’s appropriate to do so.  Too many of us, especially women, fall into this trap.  And that’s certainly no way to wake up to a beautiful day.

If you’re ready to kick the smartphone habit and start living a more peaceful and grounded life, here’s a challenge:

Take your phone away from your bed. If possible, get it completely out of your bedroom.  Don’t check your email.  Don’t check Facebook. Don’t check your voice mail. This is going to require some self-discipline, but the rewards of personal freedom and deeper, more meaningful relationships are priceless.

Here’s To A Free and Beautiful Life!


It’s Your Beautiful Life

“For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.“                                                            

~Audrey Hepburn

If you’re looking to transform yourself and your life into something beautiful, or at least ‘better’ than it appears right now, it’s probably for one of the following reasons:

·   you’re totally unhappy with your present conditions and want everything to be different

·  you’re partly satisfied with things as they are but would like to get more out of life, attracting what you desire like a magnet.

If the prospect of a total makeover seems overwhelming, step back and just think about what you feel like when you wake up in the morning. If you’re anything like me, you hit the ground running as soon as you open your eyes. You start thinking about your To-Do list. Then you start thinking about what everybody else needs and expects from you. It’s only a matter of time before you feel like you’re behind - before you even get out of bed!

This does NOT feel good. Instead of making everybody and everything else a top priority, focus on how you treat and honor yourself when no one is watching. Why is this so important? The way you treat yourself is what sets the tone for a beautiful life.

Start with something simple, like honoring your body by dressing “nice”, even if you’re just spending the day at home. Bring the beautiful things that are in your closet out into your life, so you can start enjoying them RIGHT NOW.  You don’t need the perfect body to give yourself permission to look good - stop saving your nice things for special occasions!

And don’t let objections like I don’t have anything nice to wear or I don’t have the money or I don’t have the time stop you.  A beautiful life begins with a beautiful day – and today is the best time to get started.

To Your Beautiful Life!


The Art of Personal Transformation

“In every block of marble I see a statue as plain as though it stood before me, shaped and perfect in attitude and action. I have only to hew away the rough walls that imprison the lovely apparition to reveal it to the other eyes as mine see it.”

~ Michelangelo Buonarotti

There is a story told of Michelangelo being asked about his methods for sculpting his famous statue of David. He replied simply that he worked on a block of marble, removing all that was not part of the figure until only David remained. While this may seem like an oversimplified explanation of his art, it holds an important lesson about personal transformation.

Conventional wisdom suggests you need to work at “doing something” to actually bring about positive change. But that’s only one part of the process. The lesson in the Michelangelo story is this - personal transformation isn’t as much about learning how to do something new as unlearning old ways of thinking and revealing the real you.

Deep down, each of us is an inseparable part of a field of ‘infinite awareness’, a spiritual being having a human experience. But we tend to become so comfortable within our limited human field of vision that we’re convinced that’s all there is to life, and that no other plane of reality exists. As you expose your limiting beliefs to the sunlight of awareness, they begin to break down, allowing the spiritual side of your nature to emerge and express itself.  Your ‘reality’ starts to change almost automatically as you rewrite your old perceptions of it.

Once you make the conscious decision to break free of outworn habits of thinking, the Infinite (God, Universe) responds and brings you precisely the experiences you need, joyful as well as challenging, to transform your life into what you desire - or something even better still!

To Your Best Life and Self!


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