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Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”

Aristotle

It has been said that only two equally powerful emotions drive our behavior – fear and love.  I believe that’s true. The most common questions people ask me come down to some form of this: How can I get over my fear and take a chance?

Anger, resentment and our need to control everything around us are all different forms of fear that we sometimes adopt as defense mechanisms to keep us in our comfort zone.  In order to create and live a life that you love, you need to take some risks, step out of familiar territory and face your fears. Growth, self-knowledge and a life well-lived begin at the end of your comfort zone.  But you must be willing to take risks to get there. Some people are natural risk-takers. Other people are content to stay where they are because it's comfortable, even if it means settling for a life of mediocrity and unfulfilled dreams.

The next time fear stops you from taking action, consider this radical notion: What if there is no such thing as failure? Then entertain this idea instead: I cannot fail - I only produce results. Failure is simply a judgment we place on a given outcome. We cannot choose our facts, but we can choose to look at them in a different light.  As Wayne Dyer often said, change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.

Nothing that’s truly valuable was ever achieved by playing it safe. It’s better to jump in and experience life than to stand on the sidelines fearing that something might go wrong. You don’t need to know it all in advance. No one, not even the greatest achievers in the world, ever does.  You just need to know enough to get the ball rolling, and learn “the rest” by taking action. Taking action will do more for your learning than planning and thinking alone ever will.

Live Fearless!

Margery


Celebrate Your Accomplishments

“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.”

~Thomas Carlyle

The central idea of the Law of Attraction is “energy flows where attention goes”, or whatever you focus on, expands.  It applies to things you feel good about that enhance your self-image, as well as to negative, self-destructive thoughts.  In other words, you can attract more of what you want - and less of what you don’t want - into your life by shifting your attention in a positive direction.  A simple 3-step practice that has been around for years can help you do just that. 

Most of us set goals, achieve them, and then quickly move on to the next thing without taking time to really appreciate our success. Instead, why not challenge yourself to celebrate your accomplishments on a regular basis for the next month?  Here’s how:

1.    At the end of each day, write down three accomplishments from the day in a journal, either electronically or on paper.

2.   At the end of each week, review your 21 accomplishments and write down your top 3.

3.    Then, at the end of the month select the top 3 accomplishments for the month and celebrate by treating yourself to something you love.

To make this exercise even more effective, try doing it with a friend or group and share your accomplishments with each other. That way you’ll hold each other accountable to send the list daily, weekly, and monthly.

This is a big improvement over just looking at a long list of tasks ahead or concentrating on all of the things you haven’t gotten done. Creating a written record of your successes, large and small, consistently builds your confidence and self-esteem. But the biggest benefit is that it helps you to be more present, more effective, and happier in your daily life.

To Your Success!

Margery

You’re Not Perfect - And That’s Just Fine

"Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right.' Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along."

~ Napoleon Hill


The desire for perfection can motivate us to achieve the grandest and most sublime goals.  But when it turns into perfectionism, it can just as easily be the biggest obstacle to our dreams we face.  

Bob Proctor likes to say, “There is no RIGHT way to do anything. It can be a good way. It can even be a valid way, but clearly understand there is always a better way. And with the right attitude you will find it.”  Waiting for the perfect time and state of readiness before trying anything all but guarantees that true opportunities for success will go unrecognized.

Remember that you’re only human, and humans make mistakes. We ALL make mistakes in life. The difference is that some people learn from them and use them as stepping stones to greater achievement, while others let their mistakes consume them.

Perfectionism does more than stop you from making progress.  It can also derail you from living in the present moment and keep you from enjoying life while you’re working toward your goals. In fact, your imperfections are often your best qualities. They make you unique and what appears to be a flaw can be your most special attribute to use for your greatest good.


To Your Best Life!

Margery


What Is Your Passion Anyway?

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight with no vision.

~ Helen Keller


When creating a vision of your ideal life, have you ever asked yourself “What is my passion”, and felt frustrated when you don’t know the answer?

We’re told that “identifying your passion” and “following your bliss” is an essential part of the visioning process.  That’s largely true, but such advice fails to address a critical point - how to achieve this happy state of affairs….which often results in two common limiting beliefs that actually can block you from discovering your true passion.  Here they are, along with tips on how to overcome them:

Limiting Belief #1: Your passion is something that totally consumes you, and makes you feel like you’re practically on fire inside.

Many people get stuck when something they’re interested in doesn’t make them burn with single-minded enthusiasm.  They assume it must not really be a passion.  But this couldn’t be further from the truth. Some people feel a deep sense of calm or inner peace when they are involved in a passionate pursuit. Others might feel love, completion or joy.  Still others might experience that intense fiery feeling we recognize as “passion”.  A true passion is nothing more than something that makes the everyday world seem to melt away when you’re engaged in it... and that can look different for different people.

Limiting Belief #2: Putting pressure on yourself to identify your single biggest lifelong passion.

The fact is that most of us have more than just ONE passion. I currently have at least 5 main passions – and all of them are important to me. Chances are you have more than one thing that interests or inspires you too!  So instead of putting pressure on yourself to identify just one passion, why not ask “what ARE my passions” instead of “what IS my passion.”  Give yourself the freedom to explore areas of life you may not have considered before, to add new interests and release outworn ones, and don’t feel like you have to commit yourself to just one “passion” forever.


Here’s to living with passion!

Margery

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